Life Events
The pages in this section of the web-site can give you advice and information about:
- Baptisms
- Weddings
- Funerals and Churchyard
Baptisms
Children whose parents live in one of the parishes or whose parents names are on the Parish Electoral Roll have the right to be baptised in the parish church. If you live outside the parishes and have an appropriate reason for wanting the baptism at one of the churches, you will need to contact us and also your local parish to ask for approval.
What is Baptism all about?
Baptism marks the beginning of a journey with God which continues for the rest of our lives, the first step in response to God’s love. For all involved, particularly the candidates but also parents and godparents, it is a joyful moment when we rejoice in what God has done for us in Christ, making serious promises and declaring our faith. The wider community of the local church and friends welcome the new Christian, promising support and prayer for the future.
A godparent must be a baptised Christian, and preferably confirmed. You should try to choose people who will be good role models for your child – ‘Who do I want my child to be like?’ The normal pattern is to have two godparents of the same sex as the child and one of the opposite sex, but it is far more important to have the right people than to stick to this. In the service itself, the parents and godparents are asked to affirm their Christian faith, and they make promises to bring up the child as a Christian, ‘by teaching and example’. A card is usually given to the godparents, reminding them that they should:
- Pray regularly for the child
- Set an example of Christian living
- Help the child to grow in the Christian faith
How much does it cost?
There is no charge for a baptism – it is a symbol of God’s free and unconditional love for all people. There is usually a plate available at the church if anyone wishes to make a donation.
If you are interested in baptism/christening for your child or for yourself, please contact the administrator in the first instance, who will be delighted to talk with you.
Weddings
If you are interested in getting married at one of our churches, you may find some very helpful general guidance about getting married at this link: https://www.churchofengland.org/life-events/your-church-wedding
We do delight in having weddings at any of our four churches. There are rules about who may be married in church, one of the couple must:
- live in the parish or
- be on the church electoral roll for the parish as a regular worshipper or
- have a ‘qualifying connection’ with the parish
A qualifying connection includes baptism or confirmation in the parish, residence of parents during your lifetime, or marriage of parents/grandparents in the parish. (full guidance on these connections is available from the Church of England website). If none of these applies, then the marriage cannot legally be carried out in the church by the normal method of reading Banns. However, other options may be available including the marriage ceremony taking place in a Registry Office followed by a blessing in church, so please ask for further information. If either of the couple is not a citizen of the European Union, there are special rules that apply. If this is the case, please discuss this early with the administrator, who will be able to advise regarding the procedure to follow and the permissions to be obtained.
How much does a wedding in church cost? Fees include the statutory marriage fees and the cost of an organist. Please ask so that we can advise you regarding the applicable fees.
In the first instance, please contact our administrator to discuss your request, details on our contact page [here].